4 Ways To Create A Tyrant At Home

4 ways to create a tyrant at home

Although it is difficult for us to believe and understand this phenomenon, it is becoming more common to run into childish snares. There are more and more parents who are losing hope in their children’s behavior and they need professional help. By child races, we mean children who create their own laws, who lead their parents according to their will, and whose outbursts of rage are exhausting for all who are witnessing them.

My granddaughter imagines that she has the right to control her family as she pleases and that she has the right to have a decent rage if her expectations are not met. He is unable to tolerate daily frustrations and even less settles into his parents ’boots. This is why a child behaves so badly toward their own parents, harming them only to make them bow to their own will.

Parents feel obligated to bow to their children’s demands in order to avoid their outbursts of rage that happen when the child does not feel that his or her needs and whims are met immediately. In extreme cases, the child ends up physically harming their parents.

Studies  show that genes may affect why some children are more aggressive  than others. It has also been proven that childbirths are more common in middle and upper classes and that it is more common in boys than girls, although this gender gap is narrowing all the time.

It seems that education is a key factor in what makes a child behave like a tyrant against their parents. In particular, it has been seen that more tolerant and overprotective parents are more likely to teach their children to point out patterns of behavior that are very close to those mentioned above.

Educational keys to creating a tyrant

If education has a strong impact on how a child behaves,  it is essential for parents to learn the best ways to teach their children. It is essential for them to try to avoid certain patterns of action that are followed with the best of intentions, but that may be detrimental in the medium to long term.

1. Consent to every wish of the child

If a child is given everything he asks for,  he gradually begins to believe that he really has the right to get everything he wants immediately,  no matter what it is about.

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So if they grow up with this idea and finally the day comes when someone denies them something, my childhood will feel so much rage that he is willing to do anything to meet his expectations, just as things have been before this situation. Through his anger, the child ends up controlling the will and authority of his parents, who feel threatened.

2. We don’t let our children get frustrated

Frustration is a normal and healthy feeling: it is part of life. Not all things end up the way we want. Sometimes life turns its back on us and we have to learn to put up with it.

Not knowing how to tolerate frustration leads to many mental problems for both children and adults. Whether we like it or not, life has not been made just right for us and we will run into obstacles every now and then.

If we don’t teach our children to accept frustrations or we do all the work for them when problems arise, we create a childish tannin that is unable to internalize that the world does not revolve around him.

3. We solve problems for our children

It is important that children learn to solve their own problems on their own or with humble help from the  earliest possible age. When we talk about problems in this context, we are referring to small adversities that belong to their age.

For example, if a child tells us to put his or her shoes on, even though he or she is old enough to do it himself or herself and knows how to do it, we should not give in to the temptation to help him or her or do it for him or her. Maybe it’s uncomfortable for him to put his shoes on his own and it’s easier to run to mom or dad, but that’s not the right way to act.

The child should learn that life is not always comfortable and easy and that we should learn to do things ourselves.

father and son on the grass

If a child does not learn this  every time he encounters problems in life he will not put in the necessary resources to solve it  because we have never given him the opportunity to develop these skills.

4. By teaching that problems can be solved by hostility

We cannot assume that our children will not behave in a hostile way if we ourselves get angry as soon as adversity raises its ugly head,  if we get angry or talk aggressively.

We need to keep in mind that children mimic everything adults do, especially what their parents or guardians do, so we need to be careful about how we behave.

Even if we sometimes get tired, feel that we are exploding and that we can’t stand any more, we can’t act on that, because aggression won’t help us solve anything. So behave calmly and face adversity coolly, for both yourself and your children.

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