5 Lies We Like To Believe

5 lies we like to believe

As awful as it sounds, lies will always have an attractive and seductive side. While many truths deceive us, the exact opposite happens with lies: they give us hope — the word “hope” has a lot to do with our disappointments — and they even motivate us.

Of course, not all lies have these qualities. However, many have. We want to tell lies to ourselves and hear them from others, lies that adapt better to our desires. Those lies can help you see the world in a way that conforms to our desires.

One of the kings of lies, Adolf Hitler, also stated in his time that “The greater the lie, the more people believe in it.” In fact, we often know if something is not true, but we still try to support it as truth. We will do so even if the matter has already been proven to be false. In this article, we present to you 5 lies we like to believe.

1. One of the most classic lies: if you explode with anger, you will be relieved

This is a very common idea. It is said that anger is very toxic and the best way to avoid it is to let it come out. Presumably, as soon as you shout, throw things towards the wall and express everything running in your head, you will begin to feel relief and peace.

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However, this is not the case. Anger is addictive and expressing it without control leads to a circle that feeds it. If you do not learn to control your anger, you will begin to feel it more and more, which will eventually lead to your self-control also becoming more difficult. It may start with a scream, but can even lead to a hospital later. Anger is relieved through relaxation, not uncontrolled explosions.

2. Healthy self-esteem guarantees success

Self-esteem is a concept that has garnered recognition in recent years. It is true that those who think good of themselves suffer less in social situations and waste less time on unnecessary anxiety.

However, healthy self-esteem does not automatically lead to success, and low self-esteem does not necessarily mean failure. Our history is full of great men and women who doubted themselves and still achieved important things. It is possible that healthy self-esteem exposes you to better performance, and as a result reduces interest in big questions or concerns. However, it is never a sure sign or a sufficient condition for success.

3. “He was” or “he was not” “the love of my life”

“The love of my life” is one of those myths that everyone wants to believe. It is a lie that comforts us and promotes our view of the romantic world. It is wrong to say that there is one love that complements perfectly and that is why it is “the love of your life”.

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Every choice requires rejections. If you choose one profession, you will set aside many other jobs where you could have been talented. If you choose one partner for eternity, you will reject many people with whom you could have been just as happy, or sometimes even happier.

Every love is imperfect. One love can cover what the other was never able to do. However, it also reveals things where the second love was better.

4. You can achieve everything you choose to do

The reality of our lives is that we don’t always achieve what we are determined to do. Not even if we put a lot of effort into it and spend most of our time achieving it. We can want it with all our hearts and work for it tirelessly, but that doesn’t always guarantee it.

Sometimes we set our goals in an inappropriate way. We invest in goals that are fundamentally impossible to achieve. We can’t go back in time, even if we wanted to. Our reality dictates that we cannot achieve an Olympic medal in gymnastics if we have never practiced the sport or are already too old.

While there are too many challenges, that doesn’t mean we can’t achieve other difficult things and, most importantly, enjoy them to the fullest.

5. Everything happens for a reason

It is difficult for a rational society to accept that not everything has an answer. “ Everything happens for a reason” is one of the most well-known lies we tell ourselves. It gives us a sense that reality is logic in itself.  It’s all completely manageable.

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The truth is that the reasons and purposes behind things are something that each of us dictates through our feelings and beliefs. There is no reason in itself. People and cultures design explanations for the facts of life according to their desires and principles.

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