Frequent outbursts of rage often hide arrogance behind them. Arrogant people must always be right, and they will not tolerate someone claiming against them or being repaired, and they are also constant victims of their own frustration. It’s important to point out that narcissism often hides behind pride, and that’s why they form a really exhausting personality for themselves.
We know that it is difficult for arrogant people to see the “mistakes” of their own habits, probably because their noses are so close to the mirror that they don’t even see themselves. However, we are so accustomed to the presence of such personalities in our environment that, almost unnoticed, we consider narcissism and arrogance to be normal. We can see this in politicians, business and even whole new generations.
An arrogant person, whatever his age, “knows everything,” and no one can teach him anything because it is already on his “resume”. The needs of others are of little value to her, and her maturity may be at the level of a six-year-old child.
Those who deal with such people on a daily basis are already aware of their often manifested anger. Their skin is really thick and their ego is swollen. They get angry about the smallest things and lose control of themselves. They sometimes play silent school. Maybe they are resentful of someone who has betrayed them in a small and insignificant way…
Several scenes of rage and what lies beneath the mask of arrogance
Arrogance is always a mask, a thorn-like mask in which thorns act as a defensive wall so that no one sees fears, character disorders, and weaknesses. For example, if someone tells me that I should be more patient and take things more lightly, I would not hesitate to raise my protection and elevate my spikes (he has questioned my good work). It also doesn’t matter if he meant good with his remark or not – I take it as an insult anyway.
The self-esteem of such a person is low, and this feeling of inferiority often becomes a source of aggression. It is a catapult loaded with anger, malice, and bitter frustration. Also, the need to be better than anyone else in any situation, circumstance, or context becomes a “delusion of authority”. It is a place where no one is allowed to disgrace him, where his opposition in any form is offensive.
For such personalities, pride is a sophisticated reward system. The most interesting thing is that this suit full of spikes is often created in childhood, it has been a way to hide uncertainties. Later, it becomes a way to react to problems and disappointments. This is because arrogant personalities use arrogance and aggression to mark their territory and find a qualification for themselves.
But what arrogant people really get is the distance from themselves and others. They are in the vicious circle of superficial relationships.
What should we do when we often encounter people who have seizures?
Behind the frequent anger lies a clear problem with emotional control, self-esteem, and psychological balance. No one can live under the shell of chronic anger, wrapped in a lion’s bristle and constantly roaring. If there is a person around us to whom these descriptions fit, then one thing must be clear: the problem is not ours, and we are not behind his discomfort. In reality, the problem is his.
When anger becomes a habit, nothing can develop around these people. And also, if they have arrogance and narcissism beneath the surface who try to control everything and use everything to their advantage, the best thing we can do is to take distance from them and not waste our energy on clashes with them.
Pride cannot be enhanced by arguing, but only by allowing the proud person to look at themselves in the mirror. He must let go of his lion’s bristle and his spiny pig’s outfit. Beneath all these skins is his vulnerability, the labyrinths of uncertainty, and even his fearful inner child who continues to respond with anger to everything he doesn’t like.
Frequent anger, believe it or not, is part of the daily lives of many adults. Thus, it is important that we invest time, attention and love in our children. We need to teach them how to love and how to tolerate frustration.
Let’s manage these situations – let’s teach our children well.