Managing conflicts with humor not only allows us to resolve disagreements, but it also strengthens relationships. In fact, various studies show that adversity is easier to overcome if one is able to maintain joy. Disagreement management is nothing less than this, as humor plays a similar role in facing adversity.
You can avoid many clashes and resolve disagreements and disappointments with good humor, because humor can help you say things that would otherwise be difficult to express so as not to offend another person. However, it is especially important to laugh with another person, not him.
When humor and playfulness are used to reduce tension and anger by reformulating problems and putting things in the right perspective, conflict can become an opportunity for better connection and intimacy.
Humor is a powerful tool for dealing with disagreements
Laughing is the best medicine because it relieves stress, lifts the mood, improves creativity and makes us more flexible. But it is not only good for mental and physical health. In addition, laughing brings people closer together and creates intimacy. Laughing is a particularly effective tool for conflict management and stress reduction.
In general, humor plays a very important role in all kinds of human relationships. In a new relationship, humor can be a powerful tool not only in attracting another person, but also in overcoming any kind of discomfort or embarrassment that manifests when you meet him or her. Even in an established relationship, humor can maintain emotion and freshness, as well as help you not accumulate and accumulate anger or discomfort with problems that have not been satisfactorily resolved.
Sharing the enjoyment of humor creates a sense of closeness and connection between two people; qualities that define a stable and successful relationship. Laughing with each other creates a positive bond between the two of you. This alliance acts as a buffer against stress, disagreement, disappointment, and problems that arise over time.
The power of humor in relationships
Conflicts are an inevitable part of all kinds of relationships. In addition, any kind of conflict can be outrageous, even very small, just because you react by letting yourself fall into the power of your emotions or because of accumulated bad memories that result from poorly managed disagreements in the past.
When disagreements occur, humor and playfulness can help clarify things and restore connection. If used skillfully and with respect, a little humor can turn disagreement and excitement into an opportunity to share joy and intimacy. In addition, this makes it possible to deal with the situation, express one opinion and even form a solution without offending another’s feelings.
While humor is not a panacea for healing disagreements, it can be an important tool for overcoming difficult times that affect every relationship from time to time. On the other hand, humor interferes with the struggle for power that is usually achieved in conflicts, as it almost immediately removes tension, helping to reconnect between individuals and creating a new perspective.
On top of all this, laughing and shared joy will help you free yourself from rigid formulas, both in thought and behavior. This will help you see the problem in a whole new way and find creative solutions to it. Humor also frees us from restraint. We experience the freedom to express how we really feel, letting our most genuine feelings surface.
How to use humor to smooth out and deal with disagreements
To manage disagreements with humor, it’s not enough to laugh at everyone, starting with yourself. Not everyone has a similar sense of humor any more than they are able to switch to “joke mode” at the same rate. It’s also possible that not everyone understands your humor.
There are just a few things that should be kept in mind. For this action plan to be effective, it is important to consider the following:
1. Make sure everyone jokes and understands your humor
By making harsh, sarcastic comments, or criticizing another for not being able to accept a joke, he creates even more problems and can even damage the relationship. Humor can only help overcome disagreements if both parties are joking and have a similar sense of humor.
It is important to be especially careful about other people. When a joke is one-sided rather than two-sided, it only manages to dig the ground out of trust and gnaw at the benevolence of the other person. For this reason, humor should be just as fun and enjoyable for everyone involved.
2. Don’t use humor to mask other emotions
Humor helps us to be more resilient to the challenges that life brings us. But there are also times when it’s not good to resort to humor, for example, when it’s used to mask or avoid other emotions rather than deal with them. Laughter can be a mask for feelings of pain, fear, anger, and disappointment when you want to avoid them or don’t know how to express them.
While humor always gives us a chance to have fun, the truth is that covering up the right emotions is not fun. When we use humor and play to mask other emotions, we cause confusion and mistrust in our relationships.
3. Develop a smarter sense of humor
Some find it easier than others to use humor, especially in stressful situations. Therefore, it is important to develop a sense of humor that can adapt to situations. One of these ways is the ability to learn to recognize characters in another person who suggest that they appreciate your effort in trying to remove tension from the situation and that they appreciate humor as a way to handle it.
It is also important to use humor without sarcasm. Sarcasm only tries to hurt another or use sources that can hurt others, even if this is not your intention. In fact, it is much more effective to start laughing at yourself.