Social networks are nothing more than an alternative channel of communication. They are used in different ways to share information and interact with people who are either far away or part of our daily lives. It is a useful and dynamic tool that allows us to get information almost instantly. Social networks present aspects of ourselves that would otherwise be difficult to share.
Sometimes social networks can take us with them completely, sometimes they are fun. Sometimes we wish we could disappear from them for a moment without anyone noticing and reappear in them in the same way. We don’t always find the truth in them, but it happens in any means of communication or during any social interaction.
Social networks can be fun, useful, and mentally positive if you know how to use them. Just like any other technical tool. However, they have a strong emotional component. It’s all about the social acceptance and reinforcement we get from the people who matter to us.
All of this can turn a social network into a scene of lies. For virtual lives that have no correlation to an individual’s real life behind a computer screen.
From fun to slavery, all just for a virtual imagination
Few of us realize the line between giving a pleasing image of ourselves on social media and becoming a false version of ourselves. While the desire to please people is something logical and understandable, the fact that we don’t know how to set boundaries for what we do in virtual media can bring out identity problems and mental problems as well as unrest.
These factors may serve as warning signs:
- We do not create a proper filter of our privacy for friends, acquaintances and strangers. If we show everyone the same amount of information, we are likely to expose ourselves too much to media with unlimited connections between users. With all the risks, whatever that means.
- Sacrificing our sincerity with a handful of “ likes ”. Many people post certain things and become sad or feel less worthy if they don’t get a certain amount of likes. Instead of controlling these feelings, many choose to accept an unknown number of strangers as friends. Or never delete users with whom they have no relationship. Or they may even share some conflicting images, hoping that one of their images could cross the line they consider “ popular ” or “ successful ”. Whether it’s a beautifully laid out meal or a relaxing walk in the mountains, getting likes , even if they come from people they don’t even know, gives their self-esteem a huge boost.
- By proving by all means that you have a lot of friends: you fill your photos with filters, smiling faces, proud of friendship. We’ve all at some point posted this type of picture even if we wouldn’t even tolerate the person standing next to us. Or when in reality we had a really bad day. This is the “ light ” version, the kind we call “afterwards valued”. You may start arranging meetings or parties that do not appeal to you on a personal level in any way, just to show that you are a socially active person. You may be in debt and still plan your trip just to show that you have an “ active lifestyle ”.
- Risk of incompatibility. Each of us is free to show the world our sentimental relationships if we so desire. But if you show each of your ideal encounters, people might think it’s weird. These “ ideal labels ” turn into “ Kramer vs. Kramer ” scenes in real life. When you show a lie on a social network about your friends and family, people can start to suspect you. They may not take you seriously or may consider you a person who lacks self-esteem and character.
- Declarations of love and eternal friendship that are not interested in your real life outside the computer. If two friends like each other, each instrument is good enough to show it. But some people may feel satisfied by receiving dozens of public declarations of friendship on social media. And all this in front of a huge audience. However, they cannot trust that person when they really need him.
- Making your ex-partner jealous even if you’re with someone new that you don’t like or care about. Some people are desperate to show that they are “the first to get back on the horse’s back” after the separation. They do so by changing the relationships they have with other people. Always trying to take photos to show the former that they “won”.
- Simulating splendor and joy when in reality you feel lost. We show that we are happy with our work, our travels, our children, our friends and our partners. This can lead us to real hypocrisy, one that means we are unable to make important decisions. In other words, we maintain the facade.
We believe that maintaining a “perfect” virtual life makes certain people jealous. The truth, however, is that for them, your profile may be completely irrelevant. It’s about maintaining a farce instead of changing our lives the way we really want to.
The psychological effects of false virtual life
The less sincere you are in your virtual interactions, the more you become a prisoner of them. You can publish, comment, and maintain interaction but always try to keep your online behavior as similar as possible to what you really are.
You may not get 200 “likes” every time, but you’ll like getting loving comments from people you actually appreciate. From people you have a relationship with or who were important to you at some point in your life. And are still there, even with the time and distance between you.
That’s why I like that my social networks are the closest to what I really enjoy. And I mean I like, I really like, without me having to click on it. I want to keep certain things to myself. Even more than keeping things to myself, I like not to chat kindly with people I don’t even blink in real life.
I like social networks but I don’t like virtual lies. I am not interested in being a leader. Instead, I am interested in maintaining my peace and Personality in the face of the tyranny of likes . Some time ago I thought they were entertaining, today I simply don’t like them. Likes are just something that can be counted, not a gesture of pleasure or pleasure.