Is Your Parenting Style Based On Positive Authority?

People don’t really understand the concept of authority in raising children. Today’s article discusses why it needs to be positive.
Is your parenting style based on positive authority?

Certain paradigms, such as authority, seem to change with each new generation in this ever-evolving world. Logically, many parents wonder if they are using the right parenting style to raise their children, i.e., whether they have negative or positive authority at their disposal.

Before, it was common for the family’s father to go to work and the mother to stay home. The mother’s job was to raise the children and take care of the housekeeping. This is no longer the usual setup, as today both parents have a job outside the home.

Modern society has brought with it a variety of complex conditions ranging from the stress of lack of resources to the anxiety of long working days. Parents are away from home for long periods of time and do not spend enough time with their children. And ironically, many times the short time a family spends together often tires everyone up or leaves them in a bad mood.

All of this causes restlessness, insecurity and anxiety. It again gives rise to guilt and lack of energy. As the situation continues for a long time, parents begin to question their parenting and style of raising their children.

What exactly is positive authority?

Many parents vibrate when they hear the word “authority”. This is because people do not fully understand this term. Many adults even fear that they will be considered authoritarian.

What is “authority”? It is clear that children need boundaries and someone needs to set them and force children to follow them. How is it done? Sound weight is an important part of it because it needs to be strong and secure. Shouting, intimidation or punishment, and in no way physical or verbal aggression, shall be used.

It seems that authority is essential for healthy coexistence. The trick is that you have to remove the negative meanings that come with it. That is, be strong, but stay positive and calm while encouraging healthy conversations.

Now you know that positive authority is the responsibility of teaching children. Thus, both parents and children need to accept boundaries, act responsibly, and incorporate rights and responsibilities into their daily chores.

Positive authority is important in the family.

How to give children responsibility through positive parenting

Let’s see what you can do for your children in this regard.

Clear rules

Communicating with children is fundamental so that they understand their rights and responsibilities. It is therefore important to try to communicate clearly the specific rules that the child must follow.

For example, it is of little use if you tell a child that he or she should “be kind”. Instead, be more specific and say, for example, “it’s important that you keep your room clean”. Also, help the child understand why he or she should keep his or her room tidy and why he or she needs to behave in a certain way. In this way he understands better and of course also learns to negotiate and reach agreement on things.

Consistent rules

Consistency is key to the whole process, especially if the child is a little older. There will be times when parents need to sit down and negotiate.

A child is more likely to follow the rules if they are fair. They help the child accept the positive authority of the adult and keep this fair.

Clear consequences and positive authority

It is important for the child to find out the consequences of their actions, both positive and negative. For example, he is unlikely to find his toys if he doesn’t keep them where they belong.  It is not the responsibility of parents to keep toys in order for their children.

Thus, when a child loses their favorite toy or runs out of ice cream because he devours it more than was allowed, it is easier for him to understand that certain actions will lead to negative consequences. He learns that positive authority is always better for them.

Age-appropriate negotiation

As a parent, you need to be sensitive to your child’s developmental stages. It is logical to think that you cannot expect the same results from a five-year-old as from a ten-year-old.

Therefore, age should be taken into account when negotiating with your child about his or her needs, opportunities, rights, responsibilities, routines, etc.

The woman is talking to the boy.


In addition, you must consider exceptions and exceptional circumstances. You need to get to know your child in order to learn about his or her limits, abilities, desires, and real possibilities and follow the rules based on them.

Therefore, decisions should be made depending on what kind of person your child is. It also helps determine when it is appropriate to make exceptions.

Recognition and positive authority

Parents should always be able to admit their mistakes. In addition, you should also acknowledge children’s efforts to do chores.  And of course, they get to make mistakes because they serve as a good learning experience.

Positive authority-based parenting can be positive if you understand your child’s weaknesses and strengths. To do this, you need balance, knowledge, time, a sense of humor and, above all, the right kind of authority management. Take care of them so you can release the tensions within your home and lead family life along the most appropriate path.

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