Optimistic People Also Cry Sometimes

Optimistic people also cry sometimes

Even the most optimistic, energetic and sunny people know what it’s like to be depressed.  Those who brighten other people’s lives with their smiles, openness, and joy also sometimes need time to unravel their feelings, cry, and heal their wounds, and assemble the broken pieces within them. Only in this way will they be able to maintain their perseverance and maintain a sensible, objective, strong optimism to deal with all the life thrown before them.

Perhaps it is correct to say that our current view of optimistic people is somewhat biased. We all know someone with an unusual ability to make difficult things easy. We all know those types of personalities that are full of encouragement, hope, and intimacy. Don’t you also have a friend or family member who always says “yes” and seems to live a happy life?

We believe they were born under the “happy stars” while possessing all sorts of great skills. However, the reality is quite different and at the same time very interesting. There are two types of optimism. Martin Seligman, the father of positive psychology, called the first type “blind optimism”. Here a person thinks that whatever happens, everything will change for the better, which will make them act irresponsibly and trust their destiny.

The second type, however, is “rational optimism”. This means that the person is aware that positivity alone does not cause change. Optimism is basically a perspective that cannot be discouraged by failure or the resulting thoughts of defeat.

half of a man's face is in the woods

It is also important to understand that optimism is an attitude that you can build yourself. In fact, our brains have a natural tendency to focus on potential external threats that could endanger our lives. So optimism is something you practice every day as you strengthen your character, learn from setbacks, and control your emotions in difficult times that are sadly inevitable for all of us.

How optimistic people stay optimistic in difficult times

Optimistic people are not necessarily naive. It is true that many of them practice a hollow positivity where they just focus on breathing deeply and trusting. They are just spectators in their own lives. However, other people turn this positivity into action.

We say this because there is a general myth about what optimism is and what it involves. In the second case, we are talking about a psychological dimension that is so valuable that it is worth investing almost everything to grow it.

A few years ago, the American Psychological Association conducted a study to assess how the current social and economic crisis is affecting the population in general. We got interesting and useful information from it. According to the study, it affected women the most. They were also the ones who experienced the most psychological symptoms: stress, anxiety, headaches, fatigue, eating disorders…

In addition, the American Psychological Association wanted to find out what were the strategies used by women to help them get through difficult times and gradually rise to an important or dominant position.

woman and black balls

Lasting optimism

When these women explained all the coping mechanisms they used on a daily basis, psychologists labeled this group of dynamics as “sustainable optimism”. It is no longer the rational optimism that Seligman spoke of in his day.

In fact, now we should go a step further. We live in a time when we need to integrate new psychological strategies to stay afloat in the midst of adversity. They are as follows:

  • Staying true to the ideas we have carefully considered and now believe in.
  • Accepting negative emotions: listen to their message and intelligently channel the energy they give you.
  • Understand that life is made up of many experiences, most of which are not positive or pleasant.
  • Difficult moments must be seen as challenges. They are the starting point for learning and growth.
  • Combine perseverance with endurance, motivation with practicality and creativity with opportunity.
  • Also keep in mind that many of us live in a pessimistic environment. If we really want optimistic people around us, especially those with sustained optimism, we sometimes have to change our environment. Don’t let others influence you and leave if you have to.

Optimistic people, brave people

After analyzing all the information, we have come to several conclusions. First, our  inherently optimistic friends or relatives may not always have been. Perhaps they will learn it and fight daily to maintain that perspective. Perhaps their approach to life, which we consider so attractive and self-evident, requires a lot of work.

On the other hand, we need to understand that even the most logical, enduring, and sensible optimism also has moments of weakness. In fact, many people have suffered from depression because they have believed they are stronger than they are. They thought optimism would make them invulnerable, as if a real-life superhero capable of meeting every need and obligation. But even the bravest person has a weak point, kryptonite.

optimistic people are like flowers that grow on dry land

Therefore, it is worth having a more practical view of positivity. Keep in mind that optimistic people will not be stuck in envy and beauty. They do not ignore the challenges of the present. Instead, they accept that adversity exists and that they must face it.

Optimistic people surround themselves with good friends. They know how to be grateful and forgive. Most importantly, they use their bold, enduring attitude like a kaleidoscope, painting a beautiful confidence in the future.

Photos by Nadia Chersakova

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