You may have heard on several occasions that someone is using a “middle age crisis” as an explanation for someone else’s behavior. Or maybe you yourself feel a slight escape from your approaching birthday. Maybe you’re afraid of getting old or you’re not young anymore – or both.
The truth is that the vast majority of both men and women are going through a so-called middle age crisis. For women, this is largely about the coming menopause and the associated physical and psychological symptoms.
The crisis of middle age does not strike with a bell when a person turns 40, but most of the time it starts to appear in the ears of forty. You may begin to analyze your accomplishments to date and what is missing or unresolved. In some cases, the thoughts of rest and retirement begin to spin in the mind more than before (even if the retirement age is still more than two decades).
What the heck is the crisis of middle age?
According to experts, there are two different types of age-related crises. The second, evolutionary type is related to the biological changes taking place in our bodies and the fact that we suddenly find ourselves looking older than before. The second type of crisis, on the other hand, is situational and is triggered by changes in our environment that have a significant impact on our lives. The crisis of middle age falls into the first of these two.
Moving to the fifth decade can cause some people feelings of depression and anxiety, especially if the situation involves age-related social pressure from the family or other close circle. For example, people who have not married, had children, found a good job, or bought a house are more vulnerable to the middle-age crisis, according to research.
The reasons behind the middle age crisis are many, but the following can be found at the top of the list: uncertainty, excessive responsibility, monotonous everyday life and routines, quarrelsome relationships, realization of old mistakes, boredom, lack of clear goals, etc.
A new perspective
The desire to be young again is undoubtedly one of the most essential signs of the crisis in the Middle Ages. This brings with it a desire to seek new experiences and try things that may not have been possible — or even desired — before. Some may also start to dress youthfully, go to nightclubs, etc.
This new attitude toward life can inspire us to think things completely differently and motivate us to break routines as well as improve our quality of life. On the other hand, it may also drive us into the depths of nostalgia and paralyze us to wander in our youthful memories. In that case, we will forget how much we still have to do and achieve.
Healthy nostalgia and the mirroring of old things in the present is only good, but only if at the same time we accept that the past is gone. We must not abandon the present or the future just to live in the past. However, if we know how to take the right approach to going through our past experiences, it can be extremely helpful and the wisdom we have accumulated along the way will help us move forward.
So how can we face this “crisis” in the healthiest way possible?
- Maintain a positive attitude. The fact that you are now “older” doesn’t matter. Remember that age brings experience and knowledge. You still have numerous years ahead of you, and it makes no sense to spend them suffering and suffering over time.
- Enjoy. All the things and problems you go through in your life will make you more and more interesting, and thanks to your experience, you will be more prepared for what is yet to come. You manage yourself and your feelings better, you know how to understand the consequences of your actions, and you are also likely to be more aware of yourself. Remember, the moment is always the best. Do not combine youth with happiness. We can be happy and live to the fullest at every stage of life.
- Reflect on things and mirror the past to the present. Now is a great time to go through what you have already achieved and then turn your gaze to the future, as much remains to be done. Take the time to think carefully about what changes you might want to make in your life and what goals you want to set for the years to come.